The Wedding Dance Specialists The Wedding Dance Specialists

" We turned our dance lessons into a dinner and dancing date! It became a welcomed weekly escape from our hectic wedding planning." Cindy Rich, Newlywed and Assistant Editor of Washingtonian Magazine "

For almost a decade, our complimentary newsletter has provided engaged couples a head start on wedding dance lessons and assistance with wedding planning. We know how stressful planning a wedding can be even under ideal circumstances and since life happens while you are making plans, our goal is to help you stay sane so you can dance down the aisle to "I Do!" -- Sincerely, Deborah Joy and Brian Block, Founders of The Wedding Dance Specialists

February 2011 Newsletter

Writing Your Own Vows

From civil weddings to religious weddings, every type of ceremony generally involves reciting vows. If you have been provided with vows by your officiant, carefully read them to make sure that you understand them. If the words fail to express the depth, character and commitment of your impending union, check with your officiant about the possibility of writing your own unique vows. If you and your betrothed have agreed to write your own vows, here are some tips to help you personalize your promises to one another:

  • Think about the meaning of your life, your love for each other and the reason you are wanting to share eternity with one another.
  • Take your time. Carry a little note pad around with you and when you think of something, write it down.
  • Read some love poems which capture the meaning of love and can inspire you.
  • Coordinate and prepare as a team. Decide with your fiancé whether you are having the same vows or each reciting unique vows. You don't want to end up with one partner reading a book and the other reciting 3 words. Communicate what you intend to say, the duration of the vows.
  • Talk to other married friends or family members and ask them what marriage means to them.
  • Play some of the favorite songs that you and your fiance enjoy together. Some of best wedding vows are derived from songs of the heart.
  • Go online. There are tons of websites that offer free vows.
  • If you have compiled your feelings on paper but want a creative flair or a poetic lilt. You can hire a poet or creative writer to put the finishing touches on your vows.

Dance Tip:  The Grand Finale

Deborah Joy, Founder of The Wedding Dance Specialists has some suggestions regarding the grand finale. No dance is complete without a grand finale including a dip and elegant exit off of the dance floor. Your instructor will show you how to dip safely and comfortably, for a terrific photo! The dip should be as smooth and coordinated as the rest of your dance. Here are a few suggestions:

1. Plan to dip during the last 15-30 seconds of the song. Listen for the phrase that will warn you when to get prepared.

2. The groom should get a good hold on you before he starts dipping, THIS IS THE SIGNAL that he is about to dip you.

3. Let him dip you!!! Hold on to his hand for stability. Fighting the dip is an exercise in futility unless you are as strong as the man you are marrying. He will simply use more force and be less balanced while trying to hold you up. The Bride should wait for the Groom to bring her up from the dip.

4. The dip need not be very deep or low to be visually effective. A balanced dip where you are both comfortable smiling at the crowd or at each other is far preferable to one where you are looking awkward and fearful of falling.

5. Take your time. Try to match the mood of the music as you enter the dip.

6. Stabilize your base of support. Both Bride and Groom should keep both feet on the ground.

7. Smile with your teeth showing. This makes the dip look effortless.

Pre-Marital Tips for Nonverbal Communication

People often ask dance instructors, "How do you get a challenging couple to communicate and cooperate?" The answer lies in the beauty of the act of dancing itself. No words are allowed! As someone who is married and has worked with engaged couples for 12 years, I have a few tips for successful nonverbal communication with your fiance.

  • Write a letter to express your deepest feelings if words are getting in the way
  • Be willing to expose your vulnerabilities without fear of rejection.
  • Give your partner a chance to speak. Avoid talking too much or raising your voice.
  • Make sure your actions always match your words.
  • Really listen intently to your partner.
  • Share articles that cover topics that are important to you and your relationship.
  • Never lie by omission.
  • Make eye contact during atleast 80% of any communications
  • Demonstrate physical tenderness by holding hands, hugging, stroking, etc..
It’s important to recognize that in marriage sometimes the wife leads and sometimes the husband leads. The dance floor is more black and white. The man always leads and the woman always follows. The subtlety lies in the fact that the man is elected the President of the Dance. He is not the dictator and the woman chooses to relinquish control and relax in order to look elegant and have fun. When the couple dances together,two souls are conversing. The skills learned in partner dancing are powerful tools for enhancing patience, teamwork, trust, respect and cooperation - - all the same assets that contribute toward a happy marriage!

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Dance Bloopers!
These are NOT our students!
We promise you will never look like this! We GUARANTEE that you will look and feel more elegant after ONE lesson with us than if you just try to "wing it". There are no "accidents" in dancing. Every mistake can be corrected or prevented using a specific technique. Dancing is a science made to look like an art!

Not only does this look undignified but it is also dangerous! Always maintain slight tension in the arm and a bent elbow when holding hands in an arm extension or twirl. The shoulder is a delicate joint and can be easily torn or damaged.

Dance lessons - $105
Avoiding surgery and rehab - priceless!

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Etiquette:  Addressing Invitations

Wedding invitations require as much thoughtful detail as every other aspect of the wedding.  Though the guest will be participating in the most sacred day of your life, that experience begins with the invitation, as it sets the tone for the celebration.  After the long process of color coordinating, picking out the right stationary and choosing the font, addressing invitations can sometimes be overlooked.  Here are some simple tips to maintain proper etiquette and ensure a great first impression:

  • Always use Miss for a single female guest, regardless if she’s divorced.
  • On the outer envelope, use the invitee name only, but you can use the inner envelope to include “and Guest.”
  • For proper etiquette addressing envelopes to titled guests, use the invitees title and full name on the outer envelope, and just the title and last name on the inner envelope.
  • To include children as your guests, add the first names only of the children on the inner envelope under the names of the parents.
  • Address the outer and inner envelopes with i.e. “Mr. John Doe and Miss. Jane Smith” to invite couples that are not married but living together.