The Wedding Dance Specialists The Wedding Dance Specialists
<January 2009 WP 411>

" We turned our dance lessons into a dinner and dancing date! It became a welcomed weekly escape from our hectic wedding planning." Cindy Rich, Newlywed and Assistant Editor of Washingtonian Magazine "

January 2009

Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

From civil weddings to religious weddings, every type of ceremony generally involves reciting vows. If you have been provided with vows by your officiant, carefully read them to make sure that you understand them. If the words fail to express the depth, character and commitment of your impending union, check with your officiant about the possibility of writing your own unique vows. If you and your betrothed have agreed to write your own vows, here are some tips to help you personalize your promises to one another:

  • Think about the meaning of your life, your love for each other and the reason you are wanting to share eternity with one another.
  • Take your time. Carry a little note pad around with you and when you think of something, write it down.
  • Read some love poems which capture the meaning of love and can inspire you.
  • Coordinate and prepare as a team. Decide with your fiancé whether you are having the same vows or each reciting unique vows. You don't want to end up with one partner reading a "book" and the other reciting 3 words. Communicate what you intend to say, the duration of the vows.
  • Talk to other married friends or family members and ask them what marriage means to them.
  • Play some of the favorite songs that you and your fiance enjoy together. Some of best wedding vows are derived from songs of the heart.
  • Go online. There are tons of websites that offer free vows.
  • If you have compiled your feelings on paper but want a creative flair or a poetic lilt. You can hire a poet or creative writer to put the finishing touches on your vows.

Etiquette for Group Lessons

Private lessons are ideal for "First Dance" preparation as they provide the customization and technique required for such an important public dance debut. However, after the wedding, group lessons are a fun way to reinforce your material and meet new people. When participating in group lessons it's important to know the etiquette.

  • Turn off your cell phone before the class starts.
  • Don't talk while the instructor is talking.
  • If you forgot to turn off your cell phone and it rings, either turn it off or step out immediately to answer it.
  • Change partners when the teacher asks, especially when the numbers of leaders and followers is out of balance.
  • Don't monopolize certain dancers. Dance with as many partners as possible.
  • If you already know a dance step, "re-learn" it for the benefit of those who don't know it yet.  And besides, practices does make perfect!

Dance TV

Superstars of Dance, hosted by Michael Flatley (Lord of the Dance) and Susie Castillo, is NBC's answer to the television dance craze. This new series, which sprang from the minds of executive producers Nigel Lythgoe and Simon fuller, two of the masterminds behind American Idol and So You Think You Can Dance, brings together accomplished dancers from all over the world, each masters of their own style. Each country will showcase dance styles unique to their nations, in an Olympics-esque competition. Watch Superstars of Dance Mondays at 8pm on NBC.

Date Night

Event: Mariinsky Ballet (formerly Kirov) at the Kennedy Center
Details: St. Petersburg's magnificent company returns with the full-length Don Quixote, Petipa's delightful interpretation of Cervantes's tale of romance, chivalry, and bittersweet emotion.
Date: Playing Jan 13 – Jan 18 at the Opera House
Prices: $47 - $135

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Pre-Marital Tips for Healthy Nonverbal Communication

People often ask dance instructors, "How do you get a challenging couple to communicate and cooperate?" The answer lies in the beauty of the act of dancing itself. No words are allowed! As someone who is married and has worked with engaged couples for 12 years, I have a few tips for successful nonverbal communication with your fiance.

  • Write a letter to express your deepest feelings if words are getting in the way    
  • Be willing to expose your vulnerabilities without fear of rejection.
  • Give your partner a chance to speak. Avoid talking too much or raising your voice.
  • Make sure your actions always match your words.
  • Really listen intently to your partner.     
  • Share articles that cover topics that are important to you and your relationship.
  • Never lie by omission.
  • Make eye contact during atleast 80% of any communications
  • Demonstrate physical tenderness by holding hands, hugging, stroking, etc..

It’s important to recognize that in marriage sometimes the wife leads and sometimes the husband leads. The dance floor is more black and white. The man always leads and the woman always follows. The subtlety lies in the fact that the man is elected the President of the Dance. He is not the dictator and the woman chooses to relinquish control and relax in order to look elegant and have fun. When the couple dances together, two souls are conversing. The skills learned in partner dancing are powerful tools for enhancing patience, teamwork, trust, respect and cooperation - - all the same assets that contribute toward a happy marriage!

NEW! Wedding Dance Registry

Now your guests can contribute to the most romantic and fun experience you can have while planning a wedding--dance lessons! Your guests can contribute any amount they wish to the registry and you have up to one year to redeem the lessons! Dancing is an investment in your relationship that pays off forever. It's a timeless gift unlike so many other aspects of the wedding which only last one day. Now your guests can be a part of this priceless gift!











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