The Wedding Dance Specialists The Wedding Dance Specialists
(703) 626-7016
Same Sex DanceLessons
The Area's Most Recommended Wedding Dance Company!
“We turned our dance lessons into a dinner and dancing date! It became a welcomed weekly escape from our hectic wedding planning." Cindy Rich, Newlywed and Senior Writer of Washingtonian Magazine”

The "Premier National Experts" recommended by couples, event planners and the media!

All are welcome! we do not discriminate against anyone - even cranky pants who hate to dance! ;)

-- Ken Patterson and Brian Burson, September 14, 2013

"We had a great time and learned a great deal! We recommend The Wedding Dance Specialists to other same-sex couples andopposite-sex couples whether learning to dance for their wedding or just for the pure fun of dancing! We give them all top scores when it comes to professionalism, quality of instruction, availability and ofcourse enjoyment! Dance lessons were definitely worthwhile and we did so much better than if we had tried to "wing it." -- Ken Patterson and Brian Burson, Sept 14, 2013

Click the link below to see a clip of their first dance: 0:00 - :30

Anonymous said on Wedding Wire:  Quality of Service: 5.0 Responsiveness: 5.0  Professionalism: 5.0 Value:5.0  Flexibility: 5.0
"My partner and I were married on October 18, 2014, in Washington, D.C. My partner felt strongly that we should have a “first dance,” although I will admit that I was much more reluctant because we have been together for 16 years and I am not a very good dancer (so hard for a gay man to admit!). From the first meeting with Deborah Joy, however, I realized how wrong I had been. Deborah was simply amazing both as a dance instructor and a person. She developed a choreography for our first dance song (Leona Lewis, First Time I Ever Saw Your Face) within one hearing of the song. She then met with us over a series of lessons to ensure that we understood the steps and could perform them well. We realized that we had achieved success (with quite a bit of effort) when Deborah teared up as we did our dance. Any doubt was removed when a number of people at our wedding also teared up while watching us do our dance with a number of them coming up to hug us afterwards and to tell us that we had performed the best “first dance” they had ever seen. Most importantly, the simple act of practicing our dance and working with Deborah was an enormously bonding experience for us – we had not anticipated that after 16 years together, that is, that we would feel even more in love and attached to each other because of Deborah’s magic. And magic it was!! We cannot endorse and recommend Deborah enough. She is incredibly talented and VERY fun to work with. She will give you a hard time when you need a hard time and she will give you abundant loving support when you need that too. Don’t do what I had originally planned – a boring, safe first dance where the partners sway around aimlessly. Take a deep breath and let Deborah help you choreograph something that will be deeply meaningful, not only to you as a couple, but to all who watch your dance. We cannot thank Deborah enough."

Lauren said...
Deborah was great to work with and very professional. She had no problem working with a gay couple, not even two women with two left feet! We felt so much better about our first dance after working with her for one 2-hour session, and even looked forward to it (instead of dreading it).

  • Quality of Service: 5.0
  • Responsiveness: 5.0
  • Professionalism: 5.0
  • Value: 5.0
  • Flexibility: 5.0

"Thanks for helping to make our first dance a big success!" -- Dave R. and Ray P. - April 25, 2015

Frank Snodgrass and Aaron Machado - 2015

Ivan Cheung and Duane Fleming, 2014
With tremendous luck we found our fairy godmother of wedding dance. We wanted to use our first dance as our first act as a legally married couple in front of our loved ones. I love to dance but my husband was only very good at the "one-hand-on-a-beer-bottle-while-both-feet-stay-attached-to-the-floor-with-slight-sway-side-to-side" kind of dance. But when we met Deborah, we knew we found our perfect teacher. She was fun, a little out-there (in the best possible way), and she made both of us super comfortable. She tailored our lessons (we did 4) to meet our needs and my husband just simply loved going to her lessons. The actual dance was perfect but the experience of us going to the lessons was awesome. Going to Deborah was almost like our little escape from all the last minute planning and running around trying to get everything done. Needless to say, our guests were floored by how our first dance turned out. My husband was beaming with pride and joy and that made me want to cry again. Seriously, we went to Deborah with the music and general dance style in mind, she made it happen. Love her.

Same Sex Dance Lessons
Whether you are preparing for your wedding, a special event or just want to brush up your moves we can help!

  • The perfect compliment to private lessons.
  • Invite your friends, family or bridal party to join you. Participants do not have to be planning a wedding to benefit tremendously as we strategically designed the curriculum to be universally appealing.
  • No refunds for missed boot camp but a make up bootcamp or credit toward private lessons can be arranged.
  • Workshop attendees who are Facebook fans may qualify for a discount on future private lessons! 
  • No partner switching. Dance with your partner the whole time.
  • Gift certificates available!
  • Footsteps & Twirls Workshops sold jointly.
  • Register soon for the best rates and as space is limited to 10 couples
  • Perfect for learning to dance at nightclubs, special events or weddings so spread the word to all of your friends!
  • For engaged couples, we offer crinolines for dress rehearsal and encourage you to inviteplus Honors Dances in the spotlight so Invite your parents and bridal party and tell all your engaged friends about it!
  • two instructors, wood floors, sunlit, 15 X 60 private room, with two large floor to ceiling mirrors

What is the process?

When you are ready to make a reservation:
1: Pick a package - private, semi private, mini group, group, Wedding Dance Bootcamp or a combination of any. If you are not ready to schedule lessons right away but want priority when making reservations or would like to lock in a particular sale then we recommend prepayment. You have one year from the date of purchase to use the lessons.
2: Check Schedule Availability page. Start earlier rather than later, finish 2-3 weeks before the special event or wedding and try to fit in a boot camp to reinforce your private lessons. Add to your address book and contacts whitelist - especially if you have a free email account like gmail.
3: Purchase and secure your reservations NOW online by click the button to "Schedule Appointments" on the payment receipt page to set up your account and book your reservations. OR if you are having problems and need personal assistance with scheduling or payment arrangments email your appointment preferences using the Scheduling Questionnaire.
4: Once you have paid and scheduled your lessons online or with our assistance then we send you a separate email confirmation letter for each appointments which includes details such as: studio address, list of items to bring, dance tips, resources, policies, etc... Check your SPAM folder if you do not get them within one hour.

5. You will have a lesson with the premiere national experts of wedding dance and go home with videotaped footage of your routine plus access to all of our resources!
6. You will dazzle your guests and exceed your own expectations, have amazing memories and photos/video to cherish and learn a life skill you can use forever!

Dance Boot Camp Curriculum Part A (Footsteps) 

Sample a variety of universal foot steps that are compatible with most music styles and tempos.
Develop your individual composure as a dancer.
Learn the fundamentals and secrets of partner dancing.
Techniques for travelling around the floor.
Overview of choreography concepts that make every dance complete with entrance, middle, finale and exit that are necessary for any dance whether casual or formal.
The perfect way to get comfortable dancing around others!
Learn versatile moves that can be used for your spotlight dance(s) and the rest of the reception.

This workshop is sure to put a twinkle in your eye, butterflies in your stomach and a skip in your step. Feel like it's a first date all over again! Learn easy moves that look impressive! Learn to be a versatile dance partner with universal movements that are perfect for slow romantic love ballads or fast tempos including Ballroom, Latin, Swing , Reggae, Reggaeton, Bachata, Salsa, Hand Dancing, Latin, world beat, techno, Top 40 Party Mix, Hip Hop and rap. it's time to get your flirt on with your honey! You will dance out positively glowing!

Sold Jointly withTwirls and held on the same day

Dance Boot Camp Curriculum Part B (Twirls)


A dance is not complete without twirls and your guests can't get enough of seeing it either! Learn how to safely transition and travel and skillfully twirl, spin, drape, cuddle and unwrap have fabulous photos, video and mesmerize and inspire your guests!!

Spice up your First Dance plus see how you can use all of your moves during the reception! Learn how to talk with your hips instead of your lips! The temperature is bound to go up with this rendezvous and the two of you! This date night will make you blush, feel intoxicated and high on life as you gaze steamily into your lover's eyes! It's time to get down and dirty, hot and flirty as you prepare to rock the reception and heat up the honeymoon! 

Sold Jointly withTwirls and held on the same day

Dinner Date Night

Romancing After Dancing! 
Dinner Date Night
(Optional & FREE!)

You're Invited!!
Virginia Boot Camp Veterans: Attendees are invited to join us directly after the boot camp to make it a "Romance After Dance Dinner Date Night" where you celebrate the reason you got engaged in the first place! You will meet other engaged couples, get perspective on your experience from others who can relate, learn new ideas for making your planning process run smoothly, get creative touch ideas, money saving tips, discount coupons on our preferred vendors, access to the BootCamp video highlights and guidance on merging your lives and homes once you become nesting newlyweds! We put the FUN back into the engagement period and escape
wedding planning stress with us! Turn the whole day into a dinner and dancing date night!

Hosted at a cozy Italian Restaurant from 7:30 - 9:30 8 mins from Alexandria, VA studio RSVP yes or no by email. TWDS is not charging extra for this event. Food or beverage is purchased separately at your discretion.

Virginia Boot Camp

City: Alexandria, VA 22314
Day: Saturday
Date: April 21, May 19, June 16, 2018
Time: 3:30-6:45pm
Investment: $180 per couple
$90 per person / 3 hour boot camp
*See diinner date invitation to the right.

Boot Camp + Private(s) Combo Package: $10 discount on privates when purchased jointly. See packages below. Schedule privates within 1 year. Boot Camps hosted Feb - October.
Boot Camp Registration Deadline : Friday before the boot camp at 5pm
15 couple maximum : 2 instructors

Directions for Payment and Registration:

To pay online 
with credit card: 
1) PAY: Click the BUY NOW button below. (WARNING: Do NOT click the BACK button during the process of payment and registration or you will have to resubmit data. Once payment is completed, your reciept will appear on the page. Print your receipt and bring it to the boot camp.

2) REGISTER: To the right of the receipt will be a link which says, "Complete Bootcamp Registration" which directs you to the registration form. Fill it out completely.

)Once payment and registration is complete we will send you an email with all of the confirmation details the Thursday before the boot camp.

 pay over the phone with credit card:
1. Email us a completed CONTACT FORM specifying your request.
2. Call 703.626.7016 to provide credit card information.

There are no refunds for missed boot camps unless we cancel it. You can transfer the credit to another bootcamp or convert the credit into a private lesson and keep the bootcamp combo discount on all of the private lessons.

Purchase Same Sex Dance Lessons Boot Camp
Purchase Boot Camp + Private Lesson(s) Discounted Combo Package

Virginia Boot Camp Veterans: Attendees are invited to join us directly after the boot camp to make it a "Romance After Dance Dinner Date Night" where you celebrate the reason you got engaged in the first place! The three aspects that differentiate a party from a wedding are the vows, speeches and The First Dance. We will provide guidance on all three.You will meet other same sex engaged couples, get perspective on your experience from others who can relate, learn new ideas for making your planning process run smoothly, get creative touch ideas, money saving tips, discount coupons on our preferred vendors, access to the BootCamp video highlights and guidance on merging your lives and homes once you become nesting newlyweds! We put the FUN back into the engagement period and escape wedding planning stress with us!  Turn the whole day into a dinner and dancing date night!

Hosted by the TWDS instructors and founders at an Italian Restaurant from 7:30 - 9:30pm. 8 mins from Alexandria, VA studio RSVP during registration. TWDS is not charging extra for this event. Food or beverage is purchased separately at your discretion.

Event Planner Review:
"As a professional wedding planner, I have seen countless "First Dances." After my boyfriend and I participated in the Footsteps & Twirls Wedding Dance Workshops to survey the quality of service and the experience, I am fully confident in referring The Wedding Dance Specialists. Our instructor was able to help us come together as one! We didn't think that would be possible in just one workshop!. Needless to say we are DVRing "Dancing with the Stars" now,practicing our moves weekly and have finally bridged the gap that existed for us for so many years when it came dancing. I can't believe it but the TWDS workshop already changed our lives!" 
- - Cristina Curcio, Owner of Cristina Maria Special Events

Event Planner Review:
"If the thought of dancing with your new wife or husband in front of all your family and friends for your first dance as a couple at your wedding reception terrifies you (like it does me!), we wanted to make sure you knew about a fabulous opportunity. The Wedding Dance Specialists is a local company based here in the DC metropolitan area that has taught thousands of couples how to dance like a pro for their wedding reception. I had the opportunity to observe one of their classes and loved watching the professionals in action, giving helpful tips like how to travel and spin safely and elegantly around the dance floor while wearing a ball gown. And what couple doesn't need a date night before the big day? Happy Planning!" 

- - Julie Daniel, A Splash of Elegance

Reasons to Supplement with Private Lessons

The Dance Boot Camp is very comprehensive and intense. It recieves rave reviews from couples, event planners and the media. It is EXTREMELY helpful but we do not recommend it as a complete substitute for private lessons if you are preparing for a First Dance at your wedding. Due to the intense nature of a "spotlight dance" private attention, polish and customization is required. Therefore, we strongly recommend a minimum of one private lesson for the following reasons:

Private Lessons
  • Polish up the dance with special techniques to avoid looking stiff.
  • Receive personalized attention and learn three times faster than a group lesson.
  • Select your favorite moves from the workshop to incorporate into your dance
  • Practice to your special song
  • Lifts and Dips
  • More elaborate foot steps
  • Emphasize "Teamwork" techniques to travel safely across the floor
  • Increase confidence and elegance
  • Nationally Trendsetting Wedding Day Dance Timeline
  • Nationally Trendsetting Wedding Day Dance Survival Tips, Practice Tips and Partnering Techniques
  • Use our Practice Crinoline for wedding dance dress rehearsal.
  • Complimentary in-class Video for evaluation and practice at home
  • Reinforce a variety of twirls, footsteps, transitions, travelling options
  • Feel more confident and natural
  • Go at your own pace
  • Focus on polishing technique including posture, armstyling, presentation
  • Enjoy a "date night" together since dance lessons are the most romantic aspect of planning a wedding!
  • Be versatile enough to dance all night long during the general reception too!.
  • Learn more Technique, Styling and Polish
  • More intricate choreography
  • Feel more comfortable with Tempo
  • Learn a Last Dance, Fast Dance or Honors Dance with Parent
  • Workshop attendees who become FB fans at the end of the workshop can earn a $5 per hour discount on Polish Private Lessons if they purchase on the day of the workshop.
  • Receive a $10 per hour discount when you purchase polish up lessons on the same day you register for a workshop

*If you are not planning on taking private lessons please get an accurate idea of your audience's perspective by videotaping your rehearsal and watching it to evaluate your strengths and weaknesses before making your final decision..

Contact us for rates and schedule of availability

Frequently Asked Questions - You can find many more FAQs on the main FAQ page of this website.

"How much experience do you have working with same sex couples?"
We have been supporting the same sex wedding industry since it began in DC over 16 years ago with tradeshows, group lessons and private lessons. We have worked with many same sex couples when the majority of dance studios in the DC metro area who for many decades typically did not actively seek out or in some cases did not permit same sex dancing in their studios. We have trailblazed the trend for welcoming EVERYONE to the dance studio culture.

" How do we get past the gender identity perception issues? Aren't there clearly identified "man vs woman" roles?"
Your concerns are valid and we have heard them before. The choreography can be designed around your comfort level and taste. Partner dancing is not really about man vs woman but more about leader vs follower. General ambivalence about dancing is normal for men unless they've grown up with it as part of their culturre gardless of sexual orientation. Everyone deserves the chance to dance and romance and the fabulous aspect of same sex dancing is that it allows for a lot more creativity when it comes to interpretation of the roles! Your dance will inspire and educate others about the beauty of dance being more about dynamic energy between two spirits not culturally defined gender roles. Partner dancing has a very strong historical background of same sex dancing regardless of actual sexual orientation. Once you have dipped your toes in the water you will more inclined to make a splash! You have invited guests who love you and want to celebrate your happiness. Your wedding should be free of judgment – especially your own. The moves, choreography, roles will be determined based on your comfort level and goals. Pick a song that you both love and will enjoy hearing forever a your anniversary song as that will help you get in the groove…Dancing is universal and a primal expression of joy and our interconnectedness to humanity. Human beings are social creatures thus dancing is a natural extension. Belowis a fabulous example of a couple who decided to take turns with the traditional roles of lead and follow but unless you are taking a lot of lessons and have the extra time, many prefer not to switch once they get comfortable learning their parts. at 1:00 they switch roles and at 1:58 they switch back - look and listen to the pure joy of the audience reaction

"Do we really need dance lessons? Our First Dance is a simple slow love song , we plan to cut it short, we naturally have good rhythm anyway and have taken a few lessons in the past.
Definitely. Nobody should be all dressed up with no place to go on their own ballroom dance floor in the spotlight - especially when thousands of dollars have been invested in capturing the moment with photos and video. Swaying or standing in one spot is NOT dancing. If you turn the music off it is just standing and rocking whereas with a more visually dynamic dance you can turn the music off and it will still be intriguing and interesting to watch and photograph. Slow dances are equally challenging as fast dances if you want to make them look interesting. Even if you have some ballroom/latin or swing dance background that does not mean you have everything you need to make your public debut. Your public image is on the line and it requires some personal attention and fine tuning from a professional to put your best foot forward. there is so much more to dancing in the spotlight than just a few moves. Our specialty is that we do not require rigid "ballroom dance" category limitations, we encourage couples to explore what will be uniquely comfortable for their personality and can even create a hybrid that is easy, fun and provides terrific photo ops. Regardless of the length of your song, it still requires preparation as it is still a performance not a social dance. You dont have to decide the actual length of your song until the day before your wedding but realistically 99% of our couples feel empowered enough to complete the majority or whole thing on the wedding day.
Even if you have a dance background that is not the same as formal training.

Your First Dance is to your reception what the vows are to your ceremony - sacred rituals that only you and your spouse can complete. One demonstrates your unity in a verbal way and the other seals the deal through action. Whether you want to just survive the spotlight and so something very simple and natural and have some nice photos or whether you want an amazing production still requires some preparation. The only alternative is the "high school prom sway" which is awkward for you and your guests to watch. If you still don't think lessons are necessary, try playing your special song for the entire length, video tape yourselves dancing together using any moves you have in your arsenal currently then watch the ENTIRE video from your audience's perspective. Think you can just cut the song down to a shorter length? A typical song is 3:45 so try cutting it down to 2 minutes and try the exercise again. If you watch both videos and still find them enjoyable and think your guests will too.

"Where can I see examples of same sex partner dancing in the mainstream?"

Same sex dancing is prevalent in the mainstream ballroom arena. In fact, it is part of the Blackpool, England Competitions which is the most elite ballroom competition in the world and it has been featured on tv shows like Dancing with the Stars, So You Think You Can Dance, etc….

There are also countless examples of same sex and opposite sex wedding dances but many of them do not look natural and relaxed and certainly not sensual. This is the fault of the choreographer not the couple. Most routines look quite contrived, required a lot of memorization, involve a lot of solo dancing instead of partner dancing or are just corny and showy. Whether you are looking for something mellow and romantic or elaborate and elegant we have the most experience delivering the most sentimental dance of your lives! The complexity of a routine is based on how much time and energy you are willing to invest.

"Are there historical examples of same sex dancing?"
Yes. Did you know that argentine tango has a very strong historical background with male/male dance partners? Check out this exquisite choreography. Unfortunately the footage has poor lighting in one of them but the silhouettes add to its mystique!

EXQUISITE TANGO - at 1:00 they switch roles and at 1:58 they switch back

Same sex ballroom, country, latin dancing has been going on forever and there are competions all around the world that host it. There are romantic and elegant styles and there are competitive and athletic styles. Below is some fabulous choreography and partnerships.

Here is a detailed historical overview of same sex dancing. For modesty reasons many religions have encouraged same sex dancing instead of mixed gender dancing.-

"We are nervous about being in the spotlight during our First Dance."
This is a reasonable concern as everyone typically feels nervous dancing and many same sex couples feel vulnerable displaying their affections in the spotlight. Whether your dance is sensual or silly, you will be the final judge on what ultimately gets presented. However, once you are empowered and see yourselves objectively on video before your public debut, nerves and insecurities shouldn't be an issue anymore. That is why you get prepared ahead of time, so you can sparkle in the spotlight with confidence and sophistication rather than being all dressed up with no place to go thus resorting to the "prom sway" instead. The only thing that makes any spotlight performance easier and more comfortable is picking the best dance studio and investing time into practicing. We are the national experts of wedding dance so you are in good hands. There are a lot of fun and easy moves and depending on the dynamics of your relationship and your comfort level will determine the direction your instructor takes the class, the moves and the roles.

How many lessons do we need?
This is of course a universal question for everyone but the answer is unique to everyone's situation. The short answer is Ithe ideal situation is to take more lessons rather than fewer since the first dance is your grand debut to kick off the whole reception and represents your public image as a couple. Sentimentally, it The First Dance is to the reception what the vows are to the ceremony. As a sweeping generalization 2--5 is beginner, 6-10 is intermediate and 11-15+ is advanced but the amount of hours you practice outside of class, your team work, level of focus and clarity of vision at the beginning and throughout the process also drastically affects the outcome. Since we ARE the Fairy God Mothers of Wedding Dance we do guarantee a complete routine in one visit (2 hours back to back) for those coming to us a week before their wedding in a panic but this still requires outside home practice to feel comfortable. This situation is not ideal nor recommended if avoidable. The more thoughtful answer is that there are several factors that will affect how many lessons you can realistically accomplish. Once you determine the answers to the factors below it will be easier for you to determine the amount. Here are a few to consider:

Fewer Lessons
More Lessons
basic choreography
elaborate choreography
requires more practice time on your own
supervised practice time
repeat moves
pattern variety
avoid embarrassment
more confidence
avoid the prom sway
dazzle your guests
limited in class rehearsal time
go at your own pace
basic technique
more polished
higher unit rate
quantity rate discounts

squeezing it in

enjoy a "date night"
intro to tempo
tempo variety
limited styles
more versatility
minimal footsteps
more patterns and footwork
a lot of home practice
focus on your song only
be able to dance all night and with guests and each other to other tempos.
High School Prom Sway
Elegant Parent(s) Honors Dance
Survive/Get this over with.
learn a lifetime skill for future social events

Your priorities:  The time directly after engagement is the ideal opportunity to reflect on why you are engaged in the first place. Often the thrill of engagement can be muted by the stress of launching into wedding planning. Your love for each other and your families are easily and affordably represented by the most sentimental and compelling expressions - your ceremony vows, speeches to your guests and your spotlight dances. These are the most powerful and lasting ways to connect with everyone emotionally and represent their signature style. These rituals set the event apart from every other party.

Some people view dance lessons as a luxury and some view it as a necessity. We view it as a necessity (especially compared to some of the expenditures in the chart below.)Think about the alternative. The awkward high school prom sway. The dance lessons give you the Cinderella/Prince Charming moment you deserve. This is your public debut as a married couple and nobody wants

to be all dressed up with no place to go at their own ball. Especially after dreaming of it your whole life and planning it for a year! YOU have to learn and grow together by tackling a new challenge because you can't outsource this project to a vendor or delegate it to your bridal party. It's time to face the music and dance! The spotlight dances represent the love, teamwork and unity of your relationship and demonstrate that together you are stronger than you are apart. The spotlight dances are the most sacred ritual of the reception and with a little preparation it can also be the most memorable highlight for your guests. The lessons are the most romantic and enjoyable aspect of wedding planning and provide the most visually dynamic photo ops to get the most out of your photography and videography investment!!

To get the most out of your investment in every aspect of wedding planning, think about what is going to put the most unique stamp on your wedding day and what is going to make for lasting memories. If you find that you want to take more lessons than you can currently afford you might consider re-allocating your budget, modifying your committments and reassessing your priority pyramid. Just because you've seen something at another wedding doesn't make it necessary. There is no better reason to start learning to dance than your wedding! Regardless of your attitude going into the dance lesson experience, the vast majority of students say they benefitted from their dance lesson experience so much that they wish they had made it more of a priority at the beginning. 

When are you able to get started? How many visits can you realistically make to the studio based on your actual availability and the studio availability. (You can do double sessions to maximize your lessons and minimize your trips if you are tight on time). Most engaged couples are busier than the average couple because they are essentially juggling work and wedding planning which is another full time job. Additionally couples may be dealing with moving to a new home, graduate school or living in separate cities and only seeing each other on weekends. We recommend finishing 2-3 weeks before your wedding day.

Budget: Often couples contact us in a panic who have been in "dance denial" throughout their engagement and have little time or money left to spend on themselves after making sure the party is perfect for everyone else. Others purchase packages right away knowing they have a year to use the lessons and begin taking them during the last third of the wedding planning timeline. We recommend budgetting it in early on so you dont come up short later. But if you decide that your First Dance is high on your priority list then the budget pyramid below can show you how to save money on many aspects of wedding planning strategically and creatively.

What are your goals? Use the chart to the right to help you asses your goals. Keep in mind that often peoples goal's evolve so communicate with your instructor as you go along. As you get more confident and inspired you may decide to get more ambitious or add more lessons.. Consider the following: 
How much do you intend to practice?
Do you want to learn enough just to "survive" the wedding dance? 
Do you want to have an interesting variety of moves for the wedding dance? 
Are you participating in additional Honors Dances? 
Do you plan on fast dancing during the general reception? 
Do you want to learn to dance in general at future social events?
Do you want to enjoy a dinner/dancing date night with your fiance(e) during the wedding planning process? 
Do you want to share dancing as a hobby even after the wedding?
Are you inviting parents, friends, bridal party into the process? 
Do you want to imitate a complicated routine you have seen on YouTube precisely or generally that will require extensive practice?
Do you want a relaxed and mellow routine that feels organic yet looks natural without requiring more than an hour of practice a week?

The spotlight dances are the key opportunity for the members of the bridal party to be showcased at the reception. As a percentage of the overall cost of a wedding, dance lessons are one of the most affordable aspects and worthwhile investments of the wedding budget because the skills last a lifetime, represent the couple’s public image and as the most visually dynamic aspect of the wedding from a photographic and video perspective. With preparation you can go from having a single static pose of the "high school prom sway" to having a whole collage of photo ops, poses and images that can span a few pages in your albums.

All private lesson packages can include:
  • Elegant entrance, finale & exit for dynamic videos and photographs.
  • Natural movements that make your video and photos dynamic!
  • Elegant Twirls
  • Fun dips
  • Lifts
  • Travelling around the dance floor
  • "Teamwork" techniques to travel across the floor, look confident and elegant
  • Nationally Trendsetting Wedding Day Dance Timeline
  • Nationally Trendsetting Wedding Day Dance Survival Tips, Practice Tips and Partnering Techniques
  • Use our Practice Crinoline for wedding dance dress rehearsal.
  • Video Taping
  • NO sales pitch, NO low ball rates only to upsell you later, NO "free trial" gimmicks. Just results GUARANTEED in writing!
  • All packages require outside practice to reinforce material covered in class. The smaller packages require more home practice than larger packages due to the lack of repeated reinforcement from professionally supervised practice. Our Wedding Dance Boot Camps are a terrific way to save money and time while getting supervised practice and learning universal concepts that work with every song. Invite your family or bridal party for an additional discounts on private lessons!
  • By the end of your package we GUARANTEE a complete wedding dance which includes, Entrance, Middle (a variety of moves), Finale, Exit. You will witness the routine on the first visit and either approve or modify it. If you use what we taught you, you will have many more photo ops then the high school prom sway, basic frame or whatever you came in with. (The complexity of choregraphy, intensity of choreography and amount of moves depends on how many lessons you take, how much you practice, your specified goals and how fast you learn.)
  • Since many people fear or think they will not enjoy dancing, we DO NOT guarantee a good time. We cannot control your emotions and that is also above our pay grade. However, 95% of our students eventually tell us it was a terrific experience and well worth the investment. Your feedback and communication is key to getting the most out of your lessons so ask questions if you have concerns, need clarification or are unclear about the direction of your lessons.

We were in dance denial! How do we afford lessons now?
You can have it all! you just have to be creative when it comes to every aspect of your wedding planning. Simply resorting to begging for discounts without offering the vendor any incentive besides getting your business is not effective and will just increase your overall stress levels and insult high quality vendors. It's time to get strategic, triage, prioritize and think outside of the box. You may have to retrace your steps and change some of your original plans or financial committments once the big financial picture becomes more clear. For example, if your parents are assisting with wedding expenses they cannot read your mind nor do they know your fantasies and dreams so their priority list of expenditures may look very different than yours and if you exhaust their maximum budget you may end up getting stuck with the bill for the things that are most important to you that represent your signature style while they cover what they view as essential. And that is OK. If you want to stay within their budget and avoid contributing financially then you will have to modify and downgrade the quality or quantity of their purchases to allow for items that are important to you.

Your vows, speeches and First Dance and Honors Dances are what separate a wedding from a party. The first two are free and the dance lessons are priceless because they constitute only 1% of the wedding budget but 90% of your public image. A classy spotlight dance makes your wedding look 50% more opulent. If you are at the beginning of your planning process or still have about 3 months to go the budget priority pyramid below might be a helpful resource. For those who are contacting us the month of their wedding and are on the tightest budgets we recommend The Wedding Dance Boot Camp + private polish lesson combo package or The Fairy Dust - one VISIT GUARANTEE (2 hours). Don't worry about financial constraints because we can work a miracle even in just one visit. We were the first and continue to be the only wedding dance company to ever GUARANTEE this because we believe that regardless of budget, everyone should be able afford to sparkle in the spotlight with us. In general, the more lessons you purchase or the more couples you invite the better quantity discount you recieve.

Planning a wedding requires a lot of decisions and a lot of purchases within a short period of time. There is a steep learning curve and often sticker shock since it's a new experience. But that does not mean you cant have a fabulous wedding that looks like a million bucks! In terms of your budget priority pyramid (see below) there are many factors within your control that are adjustable and certain upgrades that you may want to reconsider so be strategic and creative and enlist an event planner for launch assistance to at least point you in the right direction and day of to make sure everything goes smoothly on the big day too! Most purchases are not set in stone so even if you are not at the beginning of your budgeting process it's often feasible to downgrade previous purchase committments. The chart below helps you have the wedding of your dreams without breaking the bank!

Value or return on investment: Every couple wants their wedding to be unique and memorable but there are a lot of creative touches that will dissappear by the end of the wedding day like the bouquets, centerpieces, menu cards, cake, favors, ice sculpture and place cards. The First dance is indispensible if you plan on having music at your wedding to formally open the dance floor for others to dance. The vows are to the ceremony what the First Dance is to the reception - both are rituals that symbolize your unity. Learning to dance is the best investment of all of them because it is a lifeskill and an investment in your relationship that pays off forever at future social events or even just in your living room to keep the honeymoon alive! Your spotlight dances will be remembered by your guests forever and it provides the most visually dynamic photo ops and we know photography and videography costs thousands!! So what's it worth to you compared to your other expenditures? How creative can you be to afford your ice sculpture AND your fairytale moment in the spotlight? This budget priority pyramid chart can help you determine how to allocate the budget based on your priorities so you can rise to the challenge and have it all! :)

0- $100 table place cards, reception menus, monogram lighting, bridal party bouquets, sedan
$200 gifts for attendants or welcome bags for guests
$300 hair and makeup trial run, bride bouquet
$400 wedding favors, invitations and postage
$500 limo, cake or table centerpieces
$600 ice sculpture, live dove release or name brand shoes, limo or classic car
$1000 Chavari Chairs
10-15% savings discounts negotiated by your wedding planner, saves time and energy too, offer the vendor something of additional value
20% savings peak season wedding date vs low season
20% savings seasonal and local vs out of season/exotic - flowers/ food
25% savings the city you host the wedding
30% savings a commercially owned venue vs a government owned venue
50% savings engraved vs thermography printing, size of guest list, invite excess to ceremony and have bridal party host potluck party for overflow, use a low quality and inexperienced vendor for low priority purchases
60% savings rent vs new, Chavari v chair covers, food, drinks, cake donated to you by family
75+ % savings dj vs live band, burn cds with your favorite love songs v store bought favors,single rose/ribbon vs bridesmaid bouquet, single 24 carat gold rose v bride bouquet, sedan v limo
50-100% savings! Barter or trade your services or products for the vendors'
90% savings online save the date and invitations, volunteer your time in any capacity that would be helpful to the vendor, a private venue donated to you
100% savings! Enter a Wedding Giveaway Contest, Crowdfund your wedding in exchange for not receiving gifts, Transform your Wedding into a Charity Fundraising Event, Tell your guests about our Wedding Dance Registry!,

About the Instructors

Deborah Joy Block has been teaching the public for any occassion how to dance for 17 years while working for other studios and then running Dance Dynamix and Back to Basics Youth Program. In 2000 Deborah and Brian Block founded the first wedding dance company in the nation called "The Wedding Dance Specialists" while engaged and preparing their own “First Dance.” Year after year, The Wedding Dance Specialists remains the most recommended wedding dance company according to engaged couples, wedding vendors and the media. Appearing repeatedly on Oprah Winfrey’s Oxygen Network, The Wedding Dance Specialists and their students starred on an episode of “Real Weddings by the Knot”, the nation’s first wedding reality show. In addition to attracting celebrity clientele, The Wedding Dance Specialists inspired an entire niche industry that has expanded worldwide! You can trust the premier national experts to help you sparkle in the spotlight!

Olympic Gold Medalist
"The Wedding Dance Specialists took us from having no dance skills to being able to dance at our wedding. We highly recommend them. Our First Dance was a huge hit! Robert did the lift wonderfully and the dip was great too! We also did a lot of fun, fast dancing during the reception. Everyone was so surprised because we are usually pretty reserved and rarely dance; thus it was that much sweeter! Thanks for your help we appreciate it!"
— Olympic Gold Medalist, Kerri Strug and Robert Fischer



Purchase Lessons

The average cost of a DC metro area wedding for 120 guests is $30,000.00
Making her feel like Cinderella for less than the price of your wedding cake - PRICELESS!

All lessons are customizable and tailored for your unique needs! Private lesson rates assume 2 people/per lesson." One private lesson is :55 minutes (longer than the :45 min industry standard of traditional studios). Purchase valid for 12 months.

How many lessons should you select?
Click here for some advice.

Purchase Lessons

- One Couple

# of Lessons
$ per lesson
11-20 Private Lessons


Semi Privates - Two Couples

Semi Privates = 4 People
Semi Private Dance Lessons - 4 ppl








Mini Group - Three Couples

Mini-Groups = 3 couples
Mini Group Dance Lessons - 6 ppl







Group - Four+ Couples

Customized In-Studio Groups = 4+ Couples
4 / 5 / 6 / 8
4 / 5 / 6 / 8
4 / 5 / 6 / 8
Group Lessons - 8 or more ppl
Use chart to calculate rate





Wedding Dance Boot Camp

Virginia Boot Camp
Maryland Boot Camp

City: Alexandria, VA 22314
Date: once a month Feb-October

Time: weekends, 3 hours
Investment: $180
$30 per person / per hour

City: Columbia, MD 21026 
Date: once a month Feb - Oct
weekends, 3 hours
Investment: $180
$30 per person / per hour

You may register for scheduled or unscheduled Boot Camps but there are no refunds if you cannot attend one. You may transfer the credit toward private lessons. Registration deadline :Friday before the boot camp at 5pm

Purchase Wedding Dance Boot Camp





Wedding Dance Boot Camp / Private Combo Package

Virginia Workshop
Maryland Workshop

City: Alexandria, VA 22314
Date: once a month Feb-Oct
Time: weekends, 3 hours
Investment: $180
$30 per person / per hour

City: Columbia, MD 21026 
Date: once a month, Feb - Oct
weekends, 3 hours
Investment: $180
$30 per person / per hour
Workshop + Private(s) Combo Package: $10 discount PER HOUR on privates when purchased jointly below.
You may register for scheduled or unscheduled Boot Camps but there are no refunds if you cannot attend one. You may transfer the credit toward private lessons. Registration Deadline : Friday before the boot camp at 5pm
Boot Camp Dates, Times and Description Details

Purchase Bootcamp + Private Lesson(s) Discounted Combo Package


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