The Groom’s Perspective on The First Dance


All the eyes were on us. The spotlight shone down.

We didn’t panic (or at least I didn’t). This was because the lessons we got from Deborah, from The Wedding Dance Specialists were even better than advertised. Although we may have missed a step here or missed a step there, not a soul noticed.

All our guests were amazed at our first dance, shocked i could even say. “You’ve raised the bar” some wives said as their husbands gave me that look that said “thanks, i’ll never live this down”.

If you recall my first blog post about taking dance lessons, I wasn’t exactly thrilled about it. But I can now say it was all worth it. I am still amazed at how much Deborah taught us in just a few lessons. Our first dance just set the whole tone for the evening, it was was a perfect beginning to a perfect night.

Now I know there are a lot of guys out there who would say “no way am I taking lessons”. Trust me, I was one of those guys. If you ever met me, you would see that in a heartbeat. I resisted it. I dreaded it. I can’t express how glad I am that i did it. Just to have confidence when 200 people are staring at you made me imagine what it would be like to have stood up there like we were at an eighth grade dance. That would not have been very cool.

So gentlemen out there, do your future wife and yourself a favor, and take dance lessons with The Wedding Dance Specialists before your big day. They understands a groom’s mental state and skill level. You will not regret it, and if you are anything like me, you may actually enjoy it. We did.

When else will you have total control over your fiance/wife’s every move? It’s worth it, as you know she will control your every move for the rest of your life, so you better take your opportunity when its there.

Thanks for everything TWDS you are amazing! — Larry Frye newlywed and husband of “Relentless Bride” blogger Amy (Chung) Fry to see more pictures of their First Dance, check out the blog: http://www.relentlessbride.com/2010/04/wedding-dance-he-said-finale.html

Call us at 703-626-7016 or e-mail us at [email protected] to sign up for Wedding Dance Lessons.

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